Practice Ingratitude or Gratitude for that which Sucks?

A little while ago, I read an article written by someone who was giving up on gratitude, and practicing ingratitude for the sake of their mental health. This was an interesting perspective, and something I could agree with on some levels. I know you’re completely shocked, but let me break it down.

The author wrote that the circumstances of their life were really negative for quite a period of time. Picture everything that could possibly go bad at once – lost a job, pet died, relationship ended, and so on. They were practicing gratitude, but felt like a complete failure when they weren’t feeling any better, and circumstances weren’t improving. This was causing their depression to deepen. They finally went to a professional counselor, who confirmed that their life sucked at that period in time, and that it was ok to feel that.

We are in an inspiring time period, where we are learning that practicing gratitude, and having the right mindset will trigger positive results in your life through the Universal Law of Attraction.

How amazing and how powerful. Did you know that you could do all that? You really can.

However, have you ever felt like you were coming up short in this area? You are doing the work, being positive, smiling through the tears, yet the universe hasn’t delivered.

Being positive is so important, but being authentic is more important. Sometimes, we get so caught up in having positive expectations, we ignore our true feelings and suppress our emotions. We end up walking around with that Stepford wife smile, but it’s not fooling the universe. We are sending out superficial emotions, and repressing the real ones inside of our bodies where they will create physical and emotional problems until they are released.

So while I agree that we must feel our feelings, which may mean acknowledging that at times your circumstances suck, and it’s ok to not love that. I disagree with the idea of keeping an ingratitude list. I actually find that it’s more beneficial to have gratitude for the negativity.

WHAT?? I know, stay with me.

If things were comfortable all of the time, we would never be challenged to change or grow. It’s in our discomfort that we are given the push we need to achieve amazing things.

So, my challenge to you is to authentically feel all of your feelings – the good, the bad, the ugly. Let them unfold, and run their course, then thank them for the challenge they have brought you so that you can upgrade to the next amazing version of you!


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Energy and Your Health – Part 3

We move on to part 3, and explore this other piece of holistic health, and how it relates to you.

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Energy and Your Health Part 2


We move on to part 2, and explore this other piece of holistic health, and how it relates to you.

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Energy and your health – Part 1

Let’s start at the beginning, and explore this other piece of holistic health, and how it relates to you.

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Are you happy?

Are you happy?

It seems like a fairly straightforward question. Often the answer is yes, since I am not experiencing anger or sadness, or some other contradictory emotion. However, it goes a little deeper. The happiness I speak of includes fulfillment of your passions, satisfaction with your life, harmony with your routine, connection to others and the world around you.

I meet so many women who feel like they are going through the motions, trying to get everything done, and meeting the needs of everyone else, that they begin to feel hollow. It begins subtly, but over time may become a functional depression.

This is occurring more and more in the lives of the Supermoms, and is very understandable. Our cultural expectations have gotten to this place of unrealistic pressure on us moms, and being the high achievers we are, we jump to the challenge.

I propose a new challenge. My challenge is to reclaim ourselves.

We can do this!
We won’t have to sacrifice our families, or our work.

It’s time to start shifting society’s expectations, and teach the world that you are just as important as the rest of your family.

Learn how to getĀ support and accountability to reach your goals with a Clarity Huddle – a free, telephone meeting to discuss your goals, struggles, etc, and gain clarity on your next action steps.

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What is in the secret sauce to getting what you want out of life?

How is it that some people seem to get everything they want out of this life? Do they have the secret sauce? What’s in it?

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Using your calendar to balance your priorities

How can you use your calendar to not miss out on the favorite parts of your life? Find the balance between your “to do’s” and the things that allow you to enjoy your life.

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I welcome your feedback. Let me know your tricks to find time for the things that matter to you most.

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Are you missing the big picture by compartmentalizing your life?

Breaking things into neat, little categories can be an asset for organizing your life. However, do you sometimes lose sight of the big picture when it comes to wellness?

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Please share your thoughts. I love to hear from you.

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